If you grew up in the 70’s and 80’s, you would remember the group Chicago.. They were the rock n roll version of Earth Wind And Fire with the incredible horn section but with blued eyed soul and jazzy feel to their music.
Still one of my all time favorite bands… in fact, they have kicked out a number of mushy tunes but this one probably takes the cake for mush.
I clipped a little bit of the song below to give you a little mush….
But the reality is, why is it so hard for people to say they’re sorry?
Have you ever: worked in a situation where the boss has made terrible mistakes and cannot or will not make amends and throws the organization into turmoil? I worked in a couple of places where the stubbornness of the leader and the unwillingness to admit an error(s) caused widespread discontent, created a toxic culture, and created a failing environment but…. It was everyone else’s fault.
It was everyone else’s fault.
How can it be: that a husband or wife, a friend in a friendship, can create a situation where they can be wrong whether in deed, action or word and will not get off the failing perch of their mistake, error, action and would be willing to sabotage, wreck, dismantle a relationship for the sake of being…… right, get in the last word, prove a point. It goes beyond reasoning..
Has it ever happened: where we have said or done something that we should take back but we won’t for fear of saving face, looking bad, not wanting to appear weak and the list goes on....
Has it ever happened: where we have said or done something that we should take back but we won’t for fear of saving face, looking bad, not wanting to appear weak and the list goes on....
We won’t take it back for fear of saving face, looking bad, not wanting to appear weak and the list goes on....
It occurs to me when these moments come is that we have issues with pride. And the problem with pride is that it blinds even the smartest person to the very thing in front of them that is causing them an issue. Seems like people outside of their body can see it but they can't.
The problem with pride is that it blinds even the smartest person to the very thing in front of them that is causing them an issue
A Blind-spot is an area in which one fails to exercise judgment or discrimination or a part of the field or issue that appears to be obstructed from a reasoned view.
When pride rises up in a negative way in the life of a person, it manifests itself in an inflated, unduly high opinion of one's self, and generally some form of arrogance shows up. And pride doesn't have to be loud and obnoxious when it comes to not being able to say, Hey, I'm Sorry.
Pride doesn't have to be loud and obnoxious when it comes to not being able to say, Hey, I'm Sorry.
I remember a moment in the past where my buddy and I had a pretty heated disagreement. It was my dad who pointed out that even though we both were wrong in how we handled things, one of us needed to be smart and if we valued what we had, it was important to break the ice, clear the air, make amends. Fortunately, we both, almost simultaneously apologized and made things right....
Here are a few reasons why it makes sense to drop the pride level and make things right when it comes to saying, being sorry....
1. An inflated sense of pride goes before a fall
2. Is it really worth staying on our perch at the expense of potentially losing a friendship, relationship?
3. A lack of pride leads to less compassion. Pride blocks compassion. Compassion is the peak of virtue
4. Proud people breed sad sorrows for themselves.
So back to Chicago: there is a line in the song that I clipped that I would like to think is in the back of our minds and hearts when pride rears it's ugly head in us when it comes to being Hard To Say I'm Sorry. The line says, "Hold me now, it's hard for me to say I'm sorry, I just want you to stay".
While mushy, thinking about it, I'd like to think that when we are standing on our perch of inflexibility, there could be, maybe a part of us that really doesn't want to see our hard like stance of pride break up, destroy, damage what we have/had in our hands.
I'd like to think that when we are standing on our perch of inflexibility, there could be, maybe a part of us that really doesn't want to see our hard like stance of pride break up, destroy, damage what we have/had in our hands.
Sad is the epitaph of pride when it comes not being able to say I'm sorry because then it becomes could have, would have, should have.....
Mushy song but could it be said of us that we will do our best not to let the sun set on our anger, frustration, pride because the reality is that time is precious and too many have wasted family, friends, businesses at the expense of a prideful spirit.
Yes, it may be hard to say I'm sorry but we can start today or whenever we need to. it does make a difference..
Food For Thought: a wise person will not only say they're sorry but prove it by their actions moving forward.
Dave
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